Netflix’s latest hit series Bridgerton has been a horny staple in most of our binge-watching repertoire this year, and with the recent announcement that season two is on its way, the only thing I care about is how tf they managed to film all of those sex scenes.

Okay, maybe I also care for the storyline, just a little.

If you haven’t already seen it, stop what you’re doing right now and binge-watch it. But if you *have* seen it, you’ll know that there are sex scenes a-plenty in Ye Olde Gossip Girl.

But in a recent interview with Glamour, Phoebe Dynevor – who plays Daphne – explained that the sex scenes with her male costars weren’t the hardest thing to film. It was actually the mazzing scene.

“That was the hardest scene to shoot,” she told Glamour. “That’s saying something, because there were a lot of difficult scenes to shoot. You feel very vulnerable in those scenes.”

When filming the non-solo scenes, Dynevor explained that it was all very professional and much like stunt work, rather than… you know, boning.

“We did the intimate scenes like stunts—we blocked them out, so you have yoga balls in between you and all sorts of things that never make you feel exposed in any way. You always feel safe. I’d rehearse with Regé so much that we both knew what we were doing. It felt very practical.”

However, when working solo, she explained that she had to follow very specific instructions. And let’s be real here, having a director tell you exactly what to do doesn’t exactly get you in ~the mood~.

“But on my own, it’s a different thing. The stage directions are very specific: You have to have an orgasm. It’s a difficult thing to rehearse, which means you don’t. You just do it,” she said.

She also thanked the show’s “intimacy coordinator” (real job, apparently) for helping to facilitate the whole thing, rather than the male director telling her – quite literally – how to get off.

“I always get back to the fact that Lizzy was on set for that scene. If we didn’t have an intimacy coordinator, it would be our director, who was a male, coming up to me and telling me what to do. That would have been awkward,” she said, praising intimacy coordinator Lizzy Talbot.

“I felt so safe in the knowledge that Lizzy was there, so that if something went wrong or the director wanted something different he could speak to her first. I think it would have been a very difficult experience if Lizzy hadn’t been on set protecting me and looking after me.”

To put it simply:

“No one wants to be told how to orgasm by a man,” she said.

*mic drop*

At this point, I simply cannot wait for season 2, so if you’ll excuse me, I need to