The bizarre and disturbing case of Jacqueline Ades, a 31-year-old woman from Phoenix, Arizona, gained widespread attention in 2018–2019 after she was arrested for allegedly bombarding a man with over 159,000 text messages following a single date. What began as a seemingly normal encounter through a dating site escalated into a prolonged stalking incident involving harassment, threats, and trespassing, highlighting the dangers of obsessive behavior amplified by digital communication.

The Incident and Timeline

Ades and the unnamed man met online and went on one date in 2017. After the date, he did not pursue further contact, but Ades reportedly refused to accept the rejection. Over the next approximately 10 months (starting around July 2017), she sent him more than 159,000 text messages—an average of roughly 530 messages per day if spread evenly across 300 days. Many messages expressed intense affection or declarations of love, while others turned deeply threatening and graphic.

Some of the most alarming texts included:

“I’d make sushi outta ur kidneys n chopsticks outta ur hand bones.”
“I’d wear ur fascia n the top of ur skull n ur hands n feet.”

These messages were revealed through police records obtained by The Arizona Republic in early 2019, updating earlier reports that cited around 65,000 texts.

The harassment extended beyond messaging. In July 2017, the man found Ades parked outside his home in Paradise Valley (a suburb of Phoenix). Police escorted her away, after which the barrage of threatening texts intensified. Ades later claimed some of the extreme statements were “in jest” and not meant seriously, telling officers things like, “It’s funny,” regarding the fascia comment, and acknowledging that her behavior wasn’t “normal.”

The situation reached a dramatic peak in April 2018 when the man was out of the country. Police discovered Ades inside his home, reportedly taking a bath in his bathtub. She told officers she had “made up a whole scenario in my head where I live here” and was pretending it was real. A large butcher knife was found in her car (after she allowed officers to retrieve her purse). Ades had also reportedly shown up at his workplace, claiming to be his wife.

Arrest and Charges

Ades was arrested in May 2018 on charges including:

Stalking (felony)
Threatening and intimidating (felony)
Harassment (misdemeanor)
Criminal trespassing

She pleaded not guilty, and her case drew significant media coverage, including interviews where she spoke from jail about her actions and the man she believed she was “destined” to be with.

Mental Health Aspects and Outcome

The case raised serious questions about mental health. In 2019, Ades was found mentally incompetent to stand trial under Arizona’s Rule 11 proceedings (which evaluate a defendant’s ability to understand charges and assist in their defense). She spent nearly two years in jail or related custody. Reports indicate she rejected a plea bargain, reportedly believing it was a test of her resolve or part of a larger scenario involving the victim. She insisted on a jury trial, convinced they would see she was “perfect” for him.

While exact final sentencing details vary in secondary reports, the case ultimately emphasized mental health intervention over purely punitive measures, as is common when incompetence is ruled.

Why It Resonates Today

This story periodically resurfaces on social media (e.g., Instagram reels, Reddit threads, Facebook posts from figures like Antonio Brown, and TikTok-style videos) as a viral “true crime” or cautionary tale, often in 2025–2026 reposts with captions like “Woman arrested after sending 159,000 messages after first date.” The extreme volume of messages—far beyond typical “texting too much”—combined with the graphic threats and bizarre home invasion, makes it memorable. It serves as a stark reminder of how rejection can spiral into obsession, the risks of online dating, boundaries in digital communication, and the need for early intervention in stalking cases.

No recent (2024–2026) similar incidents matching this exact description appear in reliable sources; the details trace back consistently to the 2018 Arizona case. Modern discussions often tie it to broader issues like cyberstalking laws, mental health support, and how apps/websites handle persistent unwanted contact.